Guys?

you're too nice. you're like me, i tend to wait to figure out the nicest and best way to do it. you have to have an ironfist with this sort of thing. If you know for sure, you gotta show them it's for sure. Because, the more time you spend with a person, the more it'll hurt. Just have an iron fist, you don't have to be too nice all the time.

 

haha yea .. your right. I will get on it as soon as possible. I thought saying I don't want a relationship made it clear. i'll just tag a .. with you on the end of that I suppose. with a we can still be friends haha

 

this might as well be my first post here ! has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with reefing, so what the hell ! haha.
I used to listen to a radio host named Tom Leykis. i hated this one theory he had, but i do now believe it to be true. A guy can NEVER be "friends" with a girl that he finds attractive or that he wants to get down with. He will never be able to get passed that, it will ALWAYS be on his mind, as long as he finds you attractive. I started thinking back in my life, and then i realized it was pretty much true. I had friends when i was younger, that were pretty hot, and they always considered me a friend. But the truth of the matter is i would have gotten neked in half a second.
this guy you are talking about is NEVER going to be able to be around you without thinking about you like that, so its just best not to lead him on. if you are texting him late at night and giving him ANY attention outside of work, he thinks he has a chance. the best policy in this situation is BRUTAL honesty.
"hey bud, i think you are nice, but we have ZERO chance of ever hooking up, i am NOT physically or emotionally attracted to you, so please just take a hint" something like that is what it will take... if that doesnt work you must ignore him completely im afraid. I have no idea why i picked this post to start with, but it seemed interesting, good luck !!

 

Hey funkehouse! Welcome to 3reef, great advice!

 

Lol Im ALL for honesty I think its definitely best, but brutal is the hard part for me. and welcome to 3reef !!! thanks for the advice, honesty is the best policy its just sad when it hurts someone else's feelings.... but thats life I suppose. He doesn't have a reef tank anyways pfff

 

To be honest the fact that your not a girly girl is most likely the reason he's so infatuated with you.. I know exactly what you mean about not wanting relationships due to past bad ones so I'm in the same boat but I'm a guy..

First of all whether your nice to him or mean to him won't work.. He loves the chase and clearly loves the attention whether positive or negative..

Second just tell him he's getting annoying and creeping u out.. (nothing hits a guy harder than being told he's creepy)! Lol. Start acting like your talking to a lot of guys and that maybe u have another crush and a date.. For instance when he texts u at night tell him u can't talk your meeting with friends.

If that doesn't work tell him your into girls haha

If all those fail just go along with him let him spoil u.. Hey everyone can use a sugar daddy!!

Lastly if nothing works.. Show him
This thread and he will quit his job!! Although funny with the booger comments and the behind picking I think that will make him like you more cause he will be able to feel like himself in front of you!! Good luck!!

P.s. Tell him we all say hello

 

i cant give much advice since i havnt needed to date in a long time ive been with my girl for over 6 years and been engaged for the past 2 years. that being said one of my female friends had a similar problem that one our friends from high school he wanted to date her always txting her to hang out and stuff the only difference is she has a bf. finaly she asked me to tell him to lay off her or i would kick his a** and he stoped txting her and now he has a girlfriend.

 

It is very simple stop being a tease, and yes this advice is coming from a women even though you only wanted male advice, go figure.

I am sure if he saw this thread he might not worship the ground you walk on any longer, as you so humbly put it. Oh that is wrong it was Goddess like.

It is really tough being 20 and attractive, but someone has to do so buck up and stop leading the guy on, with this pretense of I do not want to hurt his feelings, the horse is already out of the barn.

 

Sigh. Profanity censor. Respect it. Thank you.

 

Wow look at Corailline dishin out the tough love....nice!