Guys?

...the more attention (of any kind) you give, the worse it will get for you I'm afraid.... He'll take it as ------->

 

Ugh. lame... Im just trying to keep it cool since we work together and stuff.. I'll get my act together I just don't want to come off looking like a B*%$@ its just not my style I think everyone should have a chance, but now is just NOT the time, Im beyond sick of dealing with the male species

 

That answers your questions. If you don't see anything happening with him, make it clear. Some guys are very stubborn they need some heads up and some clarity. Just tell him, I don't want to be with you. I like you as a friend, but that's ALL. I'm sorry, but there will be no way this will happen between us. No need to insist, I know what I want, and this is it.

 

GL girl

If you want a girls opinion lmk... my gf loves helping people with this sorta stuff. she writes like a page response haha

 

Yeah, I agree. If my suggestion doesn't work, it's time to ignore.

 

I have actually said I dont want a relationship << those exact words. and he's like well theres no need to rush into it I dont want a relationship either I just want to get to know you.. and like? what am I supposed to say like no screw you.? I dont wanna be like that, and I have even told him that I have some underlying issues with one of my ex's and I have opened up and told him about my depression and just stuff to make him see that im really not ready to commit or anything and that I just am in general not ready for a relationship. (im spaztic from stepping off stupid @ss meds.) and I dont really want to top all that off with a stupid guy. YOU WOULD THINK that alone would ward any guy off? crazy emotional girl getting of meds? noooo he loves me for "who I am" ughhh

 

haha I usually can handle it in the best way possible but i'm like a goddess to this dude. He thinks im sooo awesome. and like pretty and he tells me it every day. and he calls me stupid pet names and were not dating. I told him if he called me babe ONE MORE TIME there would be some serious consequences. a one page response might not be enough to shake this!

 

lol, are you sure you don't like him? You seem a little unsure. Well, there are only a few options here.

Here are your options:

1) If you like him (a little):
a) and you don't want to be in a relationship at the moment
- Tell him to wait & be friends (tell him it's his choice)
b) go out with him to test the water

2) If you REALLY don't like him and you don't want to be with him at ALL:
a) Clarify to him that there's NO way you're going to date him in any way

3) If he continues insisting:
a) Ignore him.


It doesn't matter if you take meds or not, if the guy already knows and he's still pursuing you, that does mean he likes you for who you are. But, just be careful. Like I always tell my sister, give it plenty of time, if the guy really likes you, he'll wait.

 

if your not really good friends yet, get another guy friend to back you up, pretend hes your bf and get the other guy to back off, hint at other guys names, change subject, make it an awkward situation when he mentions going out with you, do not leave open ended situations like I am not ready for one right now means i will be ready in a week or two, or straight up tell him I do not like you.

 

If you don't like him, then why care what he thinks/ feels? <--you're confusing him by caring about what he thinks/ feels.