Guys?

I just need a guys POV. I have a friend at work that really really likes me. and he won't give up.. I have told him we can be friends and stuff, and I have told him I am really not in the mood or ready for any sort of relationship right now due to recent experiences of being treated like trash. And he just won't give in.. he thinks im just this amazing person and he gives so many reasons and I can't like deny things I have done I can't say like no I didn't do that when I did and he knows it, I cant say no I don't have a reef tank.. when I do ( he thinks its really cool) I am trying to just convince him that im not quite the girl he thinks I am but its just not working, and I have tried the honesty thing. I have in no way led him to believe that we will be together at all I have told him we can hang out and be friends.. is that bad? He just tells me he wants a shot...and I feel so rude just shooting him down. But in all honesty I dont want to bother with anyone right now. Guys what is the best way to go about this.. girls you can chime in too lol I just want to know what goes on in your heads...

 

You know whats funny, my gf's best friend is dealing with this. Seriously. There is nothing you can do. From what I am hearing, he will never give up(in a way). Just give it some time he will eventually get the point and move on. AND No! what you are doing now is fine.

This might take awhile though. Its been a year for my gf's best friend and hes still trying. Hes got it stuck in his head that one day she will like him.
I would ignore this person, but thats me... and i can be mean. The nicer you are the longer he will try imo

 

yeah i say just ignore him..the less interest u show, he will more than likely just go on to another girl..

 

haha soo true, let him bugg another girl. show him one of your friends lol jk.

oorrr.. tell him "Im sorry but i dont think i can see myself dating you" or something like that.

but i think the ignore thing would work best

 

So he has made it clear that he wants to date you?

Do you WANT to be friends or are you just trying to be nice so it's not awkward at work?

 

The thing is the last guy that I had a "thing" with and treated me like straight S*** was his BEST friend. I mean like practically family. It was so risky of him in the first place, and I cant jut ignore him I WORK with him.... Im texting him now and I am telling him I feel like a waste of his time and this is his exact text reply "thats what Im trying to tell you, something special is in the air. you can call me crazy. I wouldn't still be around if this was a waste of time." the thats what Im trying to tell you is because I was telling him how I haven't actually felt that "butterfly" feeling in years, because im just really emotionally shut off (long story) but whatever and he just says he wants to make me feel that way and ahhhh you guys see a pretty girl(or so he says) and you just freak.

 

He says he doesn't want to rush into anything but he really wants to get to know me and thats how it started, I said thats ok, like we can be friends and get to know each other (why not?) im not the kind of girl who just writes guys off like that based on something stupid like looks, or whatever it may be. And he has said that down the road he would maybe want a relationship and stuff but he said he was not just looking to... hmm (how to put this nicely) not looking to just do what guys like to do lol. and I wouldn't mind being friends for real like hangin out he's a nice dude, but I dont think I see a relationship happening at all. He's not my type and im not his and im trying to make him see that.

 

Hes clearly never heard of bros before... well you know.

since you cant ignore him try not worrying about it too much. ignore him outside of work if you can. were not telling you to never speak with him. be short in your responses.
over time he will get over you in a way.

orr show him this thread lol jk

 

you're not being clear to him. The fact that you're texting a coworker late at night doesn't help him think you aren't interested in being more than friends... you're not even clearly answering my question... lol. I understand where you're coming from, but you'll eventually have to let this guy know the truth.

EDIT: or just ignore him all together.

 

LOL *whew* good thing he's not a reefer... haha i just feel bad he seems like a nice guy, im just not into it? and I dont know how to say that straight forward. He has even said I have rejected him and shot him down! and that he still keeps trying because (-- insert some reason--) its like never ending I have tried everyyyything. i'll work on the short responses and maybe avoid him at work a bit