ugh! too much touchy-feely

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Would you let a stranger hug you?

  1. heck yeah, bring on the love!

    9 vote(s)
    20.0%
  2. touch me and die

    31 vote(s)
    68.9%
  3. actually, i'm the stranger trying to hug you

    5 vote(s)
    11.1%
  1. zjpeter

    zjpeter Ritteri Anemone

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    i grew up in a German-Lutheran farming community in rural Iowa. in case you're not aware, that basically means i've been bred and raised to have only two emotions: happy and angry. we drive big trucks, work with our hands, eat steak drink beer and watch football on sundays. we are simple folk who don't like to hear about one another's feelings or talk about the touchy-feely stuff. i've made it farther than my father and i can hold my wife's hand in public without getting all twitchy. don't get me wrong, i love my wife, but i do so on our own time behind closed doors.

    my bad luck is that i chose to enter into a field where i must go to seminary and aquire an mDiv (master's of divinity) and be trained as a general pastor. the disconnect is that i am an academic. my undergrad consisted of theology, strictly theory and thought, and classical philosophy. i don't sit in a circle, hold hands or sing "Kumbaya", but

    now i find myself in a two week modular course called "intro to counseling" which is basically a big love-in where we share experiences, role-play and talk about caring. basically i've been sitting in the back of the class physically itching with discomfort for the last 6 hours and i get to do it all again tomorrow! BTW, if anyone in here tries to hug or cry on me i'm going to slug them.

    i'm not going anywhere with this one, but i figured i'd let you folks in on the little corner of hell i'm in right now. thankfully i have my laptop so i've been catching up on builds and other stuff here on 3reef as well as planning out my future predator tank! chin up and make the best of it sort of thing.
     
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  3. PackLeader

    PackLeader Giant Squid

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    Sounds like someone needs a hug.
     
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  4. swagger87

    swagger87 Zoanthid

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    :hehe:Pack you're so bad
     
  5. amcarrig

    amcarrig Super Moderator Staff Member

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    He's so bad that he's good.
     
  6. inwall75

    inwall75 Giant Squid

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    LOL Jason.

    Everyone has their own comfort level with these things. I was raised a proper German and was uncomfortable too. Life kinda threw me a curveball and I ended up being a lay-counselor who has heard everything under the sun. Additionally, it would not shock me if I've hugged over 1000 different people. It doesn't bother me anymore obviously.
     
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  7. zjpeter

    zjpeter Ritteri Anemone

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    yeah, i'd think twice about that, pack. i'm a big guy.

    why can't we just bury and kill our emotions and raise high the sterile, clean and shiny rationality? sentiment is sloppy and disordered while objectivity is firm, concrete, trustworthy and unyielding.
     
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  9. amcarrig

    amcarrig Super Moderator Staff Member

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    I hate to admit it but I'm the same way. I hate touchy feely situations. Heck, I'm often uncomfortable hugging many of my family members. Being a female, I find it somewhat difficult to really bond with most women because of this. When I see a female co-worker start squirting tears, my immediate instinct is to run and hide :lol:
     
  10. steve wright

    steve wright Super Moderator Staff Member

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    Joseph

    my advice is - try and break the mold, destroy the stereotype
    be open to new experiences and sensations

    A high EQ , may not give the same bragging rights as a high IQ
    but it will increase your circle of genuine friends and thus the potential for an improvement on a " quality of life"

    been there, done that, learned to appreciate the benefits


    Steve
     
  11. Triplemom

    Triplemom Pajama Cardinal

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    Curt, I've always thought your avatar needed a hug.....
     
  12. zjpeter

    zjpeter Ritteri Anemone

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    no, this guy needs a hug

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