does your other half hate your hobby?? (tank)

Discussion in 'The Bucket' started by Hunt, Dec 8, 2010.

  1. Hunt

    Hunt Flamingo Tongue

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    hey everyone i was just wondering if im alone on this or not.. my girl freind says she does not like my hobby (my tank and aquatics in general). because it is all i talk about, read about, and look at online. if some one stops by they ask about my tanks (everyone ask about them, usally even if they have seen them before) she hears the same thing all the time.. i cant help it i love the hobby. i think she likes them but she does not want to say so since she is always giving me a hard time about it. let me know if i am alone or not!! thanks
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  3. Crimson Ghost

    Crimson Ghost Blue Ringed Angel

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    My wife loves my tank, loves everything I do with it -- hates the bills, but loves the tank. I guess you would call it a love-hate thing :)
  4. PetMother

    PetMother Feather Star

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    Hubby is hatin the cost but is getting excited!
  5. jkuja913

    jkuja913 Spaghetti Worm

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    My significant other thought i was a complete dork at first... Always gave me sarcastic ooo cooollll, thats awesome explanations when i would talk about or show her things in my tank. Now though after about a year, she has her own FOWLR tank and purchased the 14 gallon biocube that is now underway in my room. The addiction is contagious.
  6. Renee@LionfishLair

    Renee@LionfishLair 3reef Sponsor

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    I met my husband through the hobby. I couldn't imagine doing this without him. Our current build has worked out so that:

    I planned and built the stand.
    He planned the plumbing.
    He decided on the skimmer and pumps.
    I decided the lighting.
    So on and so forth.

    We have found it better for one person to totally take over different aspects of the build. Otherwise it's a lot of duplicate research.

    We both have the same spending restraint, so we never even really talk about money as far as the hobby goes.
  7. ezz1r

    ezz1r Bubble Tip Anemone

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    Well I agree it is hard not to get excited when you can observe nature greatest Eco-system in your living room.....


    I just acquired an Oceanic 90 gallon BF for a future project....lol it crazy....

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  9. Corailline

    Corailline Super Moderator Staff Member

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    Mine really could care less. Fish and fish products as he likes to refer to it.

    Just last month he told me that " yes dear your rocks are colorful", umm that would be my acropora.

    The metal halide lighting at 6 am causes him problems as well.

    The fish are a " bunch of freaks " as he calls them.

    The tank could be gone and he would probably somewhat happy. :cry:
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  10. Crimson Ghost

    Crimson Ghost Blue Ringed Angel

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    Is he a King of The Hill guy? Propane and Propane accessories !
  11. Renee@LionfishLair

    Renee@LionfishLair 3reef Sponsor

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    You have no idea how cool it is to be in my shoes as far as spousal interest is concerned. Your hobby enjoyment would climb 10-fold. It's nice if a spouse enjoys it somewhat.... but it totally rocks when they are as interested.

    And our close friends are... you guessed it.... also in the hobby. Life is good.
  12. ezz1r

    ezz1r Bubble Tip Anemone

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    I am looking to date a Marine Biologist who likes to scuba dive.....LOL
  13. gazog

    gazog Kole Tang

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    I am in the same boat as you, "its all you do and think about is your tanks" and believe me I have heard it so many times its not funny. But you know I look at it this way, I have spent the last 20 years taking care of, paying for her 3 kids and mother so I just ignore her and keep on trucking!
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  15. mirandacollc

    mirandacollc Flame Angel

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    Well I had an agreement with my wife she said you can have any tank you want if you put a flatscreen in our bedroom this was upon building our addition 2 years ago she said you can have whatever fish tank you want lol.... I put a 52 on the wall with the 220 under it. since then she has gone with me fish shipping to not only the distrubution venders as we own a landscape and pond and fountain buisness. to setting up her own tank. since this started our son has also set up a tank for over 2 years now recent crash but re set up and now we all play whos the best in the house..... My tank clearly takes it but its with the familys help. I gave up racing national mx so this is what they allow me to do. I guess now I dont have my life on the line they accept this lol.
  16. yamaharider73

    yamaharider73 Kole Tang

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    My wife loves the look of the tank.....She hates the cost :). She does like to go to the LFS (sometimes) and pick out the pretty stuff for the tank. As long as she can pick a few of the things out for it she really dont say to much about.
  17. makeshiftcrew

    makeshiftcrew Gigas Clam

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    I'm with incognito on this one, my wife loves it as much as I do, she texts me pics of different zoas and acros and nem's and stuff(she don't know I've probably seen most of em)
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    grinder37 Whip-Lash Squid

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    My wife loves the tank and the hobby,just the cost part that she hates ;)
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    :) Must be nice. haha That would be awesome.
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  21. jkuja913

    jkuja913 Spaghetti Worm

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    I want. I didn't even know that made such a thing... I think that will be my next tank.
  22. nightster

    nightster Pajama Cardinal

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    Well at first my gf wasn't very intersted, until I took her to a few fish stores and she realized the beauty. I told her Monday I found a used 4 bulb t5ho light that she could buy me for christmas. I told her how much it was, then told her how much new ones are. What happen next really shocked me, she said "oh, well ill just get you the new one so we know its in good shape". Guess she likes the hobby more than she leads me to believe. I'm lucky...
  23. Hunt

    Hunt Flamingo Tongue

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    she hates the price. and the time i put into it the most. i work about an hour and a half from home, and usually work a little over time, so i am not home much. she tells me that she thinks that the fish belong in the ocean not in a tank. she does not get to go in any really nice lfs, the only thing we have around here are all around general pet stores.
  24. SkyFire

    SkyFire Fu Manchu Lion Fish

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    Hunt....don't know how well it'd go over but you could tell here there are far worse things you could be doing/looking up online. ;) and if she enjoys your company then at least it's a hobby that keeps you home.
    For me any future sig. other has to at least like the tank cuz im not gonna put up w/them complaining about it later. My tanks brings me too much enjoyment to give them up.
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